Why You Keep Sabotaging Yourself—Even When You Know Better
3 trauma-informed steps to break the cycle gently (without burning out or beating yourself up)
Do you ever feel like you should be further along in your life by now?
You make the plan.
You know what would make you feel better, more fulfilled, more confident.
You even start strong…
Then something happens.
You lose momentum.
You “fall off track.”
You slip into old patterns that feel frustratingly familiar.
You eat what you said you wouldn’t.
You scroll when you swore you’d focus.
You clean the kitchen instead of working on the thing that actually matters.
And afterward?
You feel disappointed, deflated—and sometimes even a little ashamed.
Maybe you:
Meal prepped on Sunday… but by Thursday night, you’re emotionally eating in front of the fridge
Promised yourself you’d launch that new program—but keep getting stuck “perfecting” the copy
Invested in the course, cleared your calendar… and still didn’t follow through
Set a goal to finish your certification or creative project—but now you can’t even look at it
And when this keeps happening, it’s easy to wonder:
What’s wrong with me?
Especially when everyone else sees you as the one who "has it all together"
But behind that picture-perfect façade, you're exhausted from trying so hard, only to land in the same spot again.
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You try harder.
You write the to-do list.
You find the next productivity system, the next calendar app, the next 5 AM wake-up routine…
But instead of getting traction, you spin.
And if you're being honest, it’s exhausting.
It’s confusing.
And honestly? It can feel a little heartbreaking.
Because deep down… you want more for your life.
You feel the version of you that could be showing up. But you don’t know how to get there—at least, not consistently.
It feels like no matter how much you want to move forward…
some invisible part of you is quietly pulling the brakes.
This blog post is for you if:
You’re tired of getting excited about goals that never fully land
You feel like you’re doing everything right—but still not getting results
You’ve spent years supporting others, but now want to finally show up for yourself
Here’s the truth:
This isn’t about willpower.
It’s not about needing more discipline, motivation, or color-coded schedules.
It’s about what’s happening underneath your surface-level habits.
Let’s talk about what’s really behind self-sabotage—and what finally helps you shift it from the inside out.
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