Updated October 21, 2026
Many women considering private Clinical EFT are not starting from zero. They have read, journalled, talked things through and may already tap on their own. They can often explain their patterns clearly—and still find that a short reply, a mistake or an uncertain moment brings the same tension, overthinking or self-doubt.
Because I offer personalised Clinical EFT support for responses like these, I often hear a version of this question from women who are considering working with me:
If I already understand my patterns—and may even tap on my own—what would your advanced training add if we worked together?
Perhaps you have wondered this too.
It makes sense to ask. You want to know that private support will offer something more personal than another script or calming exercise. You may also want reassurance that “advanced” does not mean being pushed deeper, faster or towards an explanation that does not feel true for you.
The short answer is that advanced training gives me more ways to guide and adapt the Clinical EFT process while keeping your experience, language and pace at the centre. It helps me avoid assuming that similar-looking patterns need the same starting point.
I have written more fully about why insight alone does not always change a pattern. Here, I want to answer a different question: what my advanced training may change about your actual experience of working with me.
Let’s look at that gently and clearly.
The Short Answer: More Ways to Adapt the Process to You
Self-tapping can be a useful way to settle stress and work with a feeling in the moment. Personalised support becomes especially valuable when the same reaction keeps returning or the issue has several layers.
Take overthinking. One woman may notice that it becomes loudest around the fear of making a mistake. Another may recognise that her mind starts circling when she fears criticism or being misunderstood. The surface pattern may look similar, but what it means comes from the client—not from me assigning the same explanation to everyone.
Instead, I ask gentle questions, follow the client’s language and notice when the emotional focus changes, while continuing to check what feels manageable for her. Sometimes we stay with a recent event. Sometimes an earlier experience, belief, image, or younger part becomes relevant. I do not assume we need to find a childhood memory or one definitive “root cause.”
For the client, this means the session can respond to what is actually present. We can slow down when needed, change approach when words are not helping, and keep the work manageable enough for the client to stay connected to herself.
The aim is not to push for a breakthrough. It is to help the reaction become less overwhelming and more workable, while respecting what the client is ready to approach.
In everyday life, the difference may be much more meaningful than simply feeling calmer during a session. You might receive a short reply without spending the afternoon wondering whether you’ve upset someone. You might acknowledge a mistake without immediately questioning your competence, or make a decision without needing reassurance from three different people.
These are the kinds of changes that matter to me: not simply reducing an uncomfortable feeling, but helping you have more freedom to speak honestly, trust your judgment, enjoy your relationships, and get on with the life you want to live. Every client’s experience is different, but these are the possibilities that guide my work.
More Options Do Not Mean Going Deeper Faster
A present-day reaction can sometimes carry the weight of an earlier experience. A small mistake, for example, may bring up shame that feels much bigger than the moment itself.
I do not begin by assuming that every reaction comes from childhood. We start with what is happening now. If an earlier memory or younger part emerges and feels relevant, inner child-informed work can help us meet that response with care—without forcing material to surface, blaming anyone, or asking the client to relive the past.
Many clients already understand a great deal about themselves. This part of the work is less about adding another explanation and more about helping the emotional response feel different in the present.
Advanced training means I have this option available when it arises naturally and feels relevant to the client. It does not mean I decide in advance that this is where the session needs to go.
When Words Are Not Enough: Picture Tapping Technique
Some experiences do not arrive in tidy sentences. They can feel enormous, messy, or so longstanding that a woman says, “This has always been here,” or, “I don’t think this will ever change.” Other experiences feel too embarrassing, shame-filled, or private to explain in detail. And sometimes she has analysed the pattern from every angle but still feels caught inside the same story.
Picture Tapping Technique gives us another gentle way in. Instead of having to find the perfect explanation, the client can use simple doodles, colours, lines, shapes, or images to show what the issue feels like. No artistic ability is needed. A few marks on the page are enough, and she can keep the details of the situation private.
If a client wants to try it, I guide the tapping using her own description of what she has drawn. I do not interpret the picture, decide what a colour means, or tell her what the image is revealing. She remains the expert on her own experience. As she taps and draws again, I ask what she notices now. A feeling, memory, or association may arise, the image may change, or something may simply feel less stuck. We follow what is actually present without forcing a particular insight.
My additional training in Picture Tapping gives us another carefully guided, client-led option when an issue feels too big, too private, or too tangled to explain. It is available when it suits you; it is not something every client needs to use.
A Hypothetical Example: When You’re Not Ready to Talk About What Happened
Imagine a woman carrying shame about something that happened years ago. She knows it still affects her — perhaps in the way she doubts herself, struggles to trust her judgment, or feels a familiar heaviness when something reminds her of it.
She would like to work through it, but talking about what happened feels too exposing. Even the thought of explaining it brings up discomfort.
This is where Picture Tapping Technique can offer a gentler way in.
Rather than asking her to tell me the story, I might invite her to draw whatever represents the feeling for her. It could be a shape, a colour, a few lines, or something that makes sense only to her.
She doesn’t have to explain the drawing to me. She doesn’t even have to tell me what happened.
Using her own images and associations, we can tap while she notices what changes. Perhaps the drawing changes, another image emerges, or the feeling begins to soften. We follow her experience without requiring her to put it into words.
And if something feels too much, we slow down or stop. She remains in charge of what she shares and how far we go.
Over time, the shame may begin to lose some of its intensity. Something that once brought an immediate wave of discomfort may become easier to think about, or a reminder that used to send her into self-criticism may no longer carry quite the same weight.
The important difference is that she can begin working with something deeply personal without having to tell me the story behind it.
For someone who has spent years carrying something privately, that possibility alone can make reaching out for support feel more manageable.
My Journey Into Clinical EFT
My EFT journey began in 2020, during the pandemic, when I came across a presentation by Dr Peta Stapleton. Her discussion of EFT and the stress response caught my attention because the method was practical, body-based, and did not rely only on talking or trying to think differently.
What began as curiosity became a deeper professional path. Since then, I have trained in Clinical EFT, trauma-informed EFT, inner child work, advanced EFT approaches, and Picture Tapping Technique.
That training now informs my work with capable, self-aware women who can often explain their patterns very clearly but want support that is more personalised than a script or quick calming tool.
For me, the value of that training is not the number of techniques I can name. It is having more thoughtful options available while remaining careful about whether any particular option fits the person in front of me.
A Note From My Mentor
When I completed trauma-informed Master Level 3 EFT Tapping Practitioner training with Jackie Viramontez, I was deeply moved to receive this feedback from her. Jackie is an EFT International Accredited Certified EFT Master Trainer and was my mentor throughout the training:
“You’re a true master! I would recommend you to anyone, especially those who need the tailored and loving guidance of a true pro. You’ve put so much heart into your work, and your diligence, thoroughness, and intuitive guidance are remarkable. I can’t begin to express my gratitude — this has been such a rich and celebratory journey!”
I’m sharing this because trust matters when the work is tender or long-standing. Clients deserve to know that the person supporting them has taken both the training and the pace of the work seriously.
How This Shapes the Support You Receive
This attention to flexibility and pacing shapes my private Clinical EFT work from the beginning. We start with what you want support with and build a working understanding together, without deciding in advance what your experience means.
The roadmap gives us direction, but it is not a diagnosis, a fixed interpretation or a promise that every session will follow a predetermined sequence. It leaves room to respond to what actually emerges and what feels relevant to the client.
An appropriate series can also offer continuity. We can notice what changes between sessions, return to a specific moment when useful, and adapt the process without treating every difficulty as a separate failure.
That longer relationship is part of what allows the advanced training to matter in practice: there is time to use it thoughtfully rather than reaching for another technique simply because it is available.
What Matters Most to Me Now
Advanced training has not made the work more complicated for the client. It has made me more careful about the details: what is active now, what feels manageable, and which approach fits this person.
That is the part that matters most to me. The method should adapt to the client, not the other way around.
You Might Also Be Wondering…
“Does advanced training mean we will go deeper or faster?”
No. More training gives me more options, but it should also strengthen my judgment about when not to use them. The aim is not to reach the earliest memory or most intense emotion as quickly as possible. It is to work with what feels relevant and manageable to you.
“Would I have to talk about childhood or use Picture Tapping?”
No. We begin with what you want support with now. Earlier experiences or younger parts are followed only if they emerge naturally and feel relevant to you. Picture Tapping is also an option, not a requirement.
“What if self-tapping already helps me?”
That is valuable, and I would not want you to stop using something that supports you. Private work may add value when a pattern keeps returning, the emotional focus changes unexpectedly or you would like compassionate support with specificity and pacing.
When You Want Personalised Support
Perhaps you already understand why certain situations affect you so strongly. You may even have tools that help you feel calmer in the moment.
But when someone sounds disappointed, you make a mistake, or an important decision feels uncertain, the familiar reaction still takes over.
If you’re tired of working so hard to manage those moments, personalised Clinical EFT may offer another way forward.
My advanced training allows me to adapt the work to what is actually happening for you — whether that means working with a specific trigger, an old belief, a difficult-to-name feeling, or a protective response that needs a gentler approach.
The aim is not simply to help you cope better with the same reactions. It’s to work with the emotional responses themselves, so you may have more freedom to make decisions, express yourself, and enjoy your life without the same familiar struggle.
If you’d like to explore whether this kind of support could be right for you, we can begin with a private 15-minute consultation.
We’ll talk about what you’re experiencing, what you’ve already tried, and what kind of support might be appropriate for your needs.
With deep care,
🌿 Kay
EFT International Accredited Certified Advanced EFT Practitioner
Mind-body coach offering gentle, trauma-informed support for anxiety, overwhelm, and nervous system regulation.
A note of care
This article is educational and is not a substitute for medical or mental health care. If what you are experiencing feels severe, overwhelming, or unsafe, please seek support from a qualified healthcare or mental health professional.
Just making a shout out - congratulations! It was a joy doing this journey with you! 😃🙌🏼
Congratulations Kay - this is amazing